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1. When you make a mistake at work, your reaction is usually to:
A. Replay it repeatedly and think about how you could have handled it better
B. Feel frustrated with yourself and vow to “do better next time”
C. Worry about how it affected others or what others think about you
D. Feel a quiet heaviness and wonder why things feel hard
2. Which sentence sounds most like your inner dialogue on a stressful day?
A. “I just need to think this through one more time.”
B. “I shouldn’t be struggling with this—I need to try harder.”
C. “I don’t want to let anyone down.”
D. “I’m doing everything I’m supposed to… so why does it feel difficult?”
3. When you’re faced with an important decision, you tend to:
A. Gather lots of information and still feel unsure
B. Decide quickly but feel pressure to get it right
C. Consider how your choice will affect everyone else first
D. Delay deciding because none of the options feel exciting or aligned
4. At the end of the day, you’re most likely to feel:
A. Mentally exhausted from thinking all day
B. Dissatisfied with yourself because you didn’t get everything crossed off your list
C. Drained from managing other people’s needs or emotions
D. Tired from running on autopilot
5. When someone asks you for something you don’t really have capacity for, you usually:
A. Say yes while mentally calculating how to fit it in
B. Say yes because you should be able to handle it
C. Say yes to avoid discomfort or disappointing them
D. Feel disconnected either way—yes or no doesn’t feel good
6. What feels hardest for you right now?
A. Quieting your mind
B. Feeling satisfied with your efforts
C. Setting boundaries without guilt
D. Feeling fulfilled or inspired. You wonder if this is all there is.
7. When you imagine slowing down, your body’s reaction is closest to:
A. Restlessness—your mind doesn’t shut off
B. Anxiety—you worry you’ll fall behind
C. Guilt—you feel like you should be doing something
D. Disinterest—you’re not sure what else you would do
8. In conversations at work, you sometimes notice that you:
A. Replay what you said afterward and critique it
B. Judge yourself for not being more confident or assertive
C. Say things in a way that keeps the peace, even if it’s not fully honest
D. Feel disengaged or disconnected from the discussion
9. Which statement feels most true lately?
A. “My mind rarely gets a break.”
B. “I’m successful, but it doesn’t feel like enough.”
C. “I’m great at supporting others, but not myself.”
D. “I miss feeling like me. I’m not sure who I am anymore.”
10. If one thing could change right now, you’d want:
A. More mental clarity and calm
B. Less self-pressure and more ease
C. Freedom to say what you actually think or need
D. A sense of meaning or fulfillment

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